Why you should date a programmer

Disclaimer: This post is nothing but a light read for Valentine’s day. Women, please don’t take up arms. (That doesn’t mean some of it won’t hold true for some programmers out there.)

Love is in the air and everyone is celebrating the feeling of companionship. But as we speak, there’s a programmer out there, attending a developer conference, to keep his mind occupied and distracted from his single status. While all his friends are raving about their plans for their valentines, this programmer is probably hacking away to keep his mind off this silly nonsense (not that everyone thinks this).

Now if you’re a girl reading this, you’re probably thinking – Programmers? You mean like, a nerd? Why would anyone want to date them?

Well, I’ll give you 10 reasons why you should.

Reason 1 – The stereotype is not true

Internet memes have done programmers a great deal of wrong. This is absolutely biased! In fact, programmers have normal lives, friends, and enjoy the things everyone else does. Yes, there are extreme cases, but it’s like just that unbelievably good-looking guy who spends way too much time at the gym.

Reason 2 – He’s probably very clever 

You must admit that the programmer is very likely to be a learned guy. He can charm you with his razor-sharp intellect and crack you up with his witty and intelligent sense of humor. Also, he’s definitely going to win your friends over by not being a complete nut. But of course, you could choose brawn over brain, and be in a situation like this.

Reason 3 – He’s multifaceted 

Programming is multidisciplinary and your programmer date is going to know about a lot more things than just coding. From talking about the latest celebrity gossip, you can effortlessly glide into a conversation about his impeccable taste in music (that has kept him company over many coding hours) to that awesome Spaghetti Bolognese he cooked the other day. Every programmer I’ve met till date has had some hobby he’s really good at.

Reason 4 – He’s probably rich 

Computer science jobs are one of the highest paying ones in the world, in almost any part of the world. Your programmer date has a very high chance of being significantly well off, so you are assured of a posh place for dinner, AND you don’t have to worry about getting out your purse. Ever.

Reason 5 – He’s grateful 

Thanks to the geek image that the programmer has carried for almost all his life, if you were to go out on a date with this guy, you’re probably his first. While he’s bound to goof up a few dating 101s, he’s going to treat you like a princess. Every little thing you do will be magic to this guy, and it will take a long, long time before your charm wears off on him.

Reason 6 – He’s empathetic 

Your programming date has spent a lot of time developing software for his users. This involves understanding the users and knowing what they want and what they don’t like. And because of this, he’s probably attained a high level of empathy. He’s totally going to get why you sometimes behave all weird and will think twice before doing something that might affect you in a not so nice way.

Reason 7 – He’s patient 

Your programmer date has also spent a lot of time dealing with the worst kind of customers and users, trying to build a product that would satisfy all of them. While that is never going to happen, he will be patient enough.

Reason 8 – He’s rational

Combined with being empathetic and patient, your programmer date is also extremely rational. After honing his problem-solving skills for years, he’s not going to fight with you on directions. He will simply use Google Maps and spend more time with you.

Reason 9 – He’s straightforward 

Programmers might be the shy type, but they’re supremely straightforward. So, if they’re feeling something, they’re bound to tell you on the face. While it might not be what you always want, you can trust this man to be truthful to you.

Reason 10 – He’s committed 

If all these reasons don’t have you convinced, this last one surely will. All his human skills make him perfect boyfriend material and his rationale will make him a mature, and sensible partner. But a defining feature of programmers is that they’re committed. The most talented programmers don’t necessarily have the highest paying jobs. They choose the projects that touch them at an emotional level, and they work with them, while they could be making much more money. Once he’s committed to you, no pretty girl can lure him away from you. He’s yours, he’s a keeper.

Agree? Disagree? Tell us what you think.  

Raghu Mohan Author 58 Blogs